Someone said "You have got a lot of patience. If I were you I would have broken down". Someone else said "You are not the person you used to be. You were such a fighter. You are losing yourself. You need to pick yourself up".
Someone said "What would I do without you". Someone else said "What are you doing here".
Someone said "You are so caring". Someone else said " Why do you poke your nose around".
Someone said "I know what you are going through. I understand". Someone else said "You need to get used to it. Stop bickering".
Words.... one should always be careful with them. They can make or break things. they can be used for motivation or humiliation. How you wish to use them decides their effect.
There are times, when you feel numb. Utterly hopelessly numb. To an extent that you don't know what's next. At such times the kind words of your loved ones come to your rescue. Sometimes in the form of sweet praise and sometimes in a tough tone.
What do you do when you are at the receiving end of the words. Sweet and kind words are always welcome. They make your day. But what about those distasteful harsh words that come your way. Sadly they get etched on our minds. Such deeply are they etched that whenever you look back to them you relive the pain. Sad but true.
But they say only when we let go of the pain, we can be at peace. No doubt its true.But is it possible. What should one prioritize... Peace of mind or the pain they have been through. If everyone would prefer peace of mind, then people could hurt someone and get away with easily. Is that right? If everyone holds on to pain and hurt, then where would one get hope from. That's not right either.
What do I do. Frankly speaking.. there is no hard and fast rule. Sometimes I feel like letting go off and sometimes I am just not ready to part with the hurt. Maybe the hurt is a reminder of how cold people can be. I know maybe my views would change with time. That's life.
The real challenge, is to stay grounded. No matter what words come your way, you should not let them deviate you from the reality. There may be times when there would be no words from anyone. In such times, give yourself the much needed honest pep talk. After all, who would be a better judge than you yourself. The key is.. be honest with yourself.
Someone said "What would I do without you". Someone else said "What are you doing here".
Someone said "You are so caring". Someone else said " Why do you poke your nose around".
Someone said "I know what you are going through. I understand". Someone else said "You need to get used to it. Stop bickering".
Words.... one should always be careful with them. They can make or break things. they can be used for motivation or humiliation. How you wish to use them decides their effect.
There are times, when you feel numb. Utterly hopelessly numb. To an extent that you don't know what's next. At such times the kind words of your loved ones come to your rescue. Sometimes in the form of sweet praise and sometimes in a tough tone.
What do you do when you are at the receiving end of the words. Sweet and kind words are always welcome. They make your day. But what about those distasteful harsh words that come your way. Sadly they get etched on our minds. Such deeply are they etched that whenever you look back to them you relive the pain. Sad but true.
But they say only when we let go of the pain, we can be at peace. No doubt its true.But is it possible. What should one prioritize... Peace of mind or the pain they have been through. If everyone would prefer peace of mind, then people could hurt someone and get away with easily. Is that right? If everyone holds on to pain and hurt, then where would one get hope from. That's not right either.
What do I do. Frankly speaking.. there is no hard and fast rule. Sometimes I feel like letting go off and sometimes I am just not ready to part with the hurt. Maybe the hurt is a reminder of how cold people can be. I know maybe my views would change with time. That's life.
The real challenge, is to stay grounded. No matter what words come your way, you should not let them deviate you from the reality. There may be times when there would be no words from anyone. In such times, give yourself the much needed honest pep talk. After all, who would be a better judge than you yourself. The key is.. be honest with yourself.
