Nothing in this world is heartbreaking as it is to see your loved ones breaking down. A person you look up to, someone who is your inspiration, is losing faith. It is something beyond your imagination. You are like, this cannot be true. But you can see it happening. You are clueless about what to do. You want to do anything that is possible so that they feel comforted.
But then can we actually do something in such cases. I guess it's both yes and a no.
Why yes. What is it that we can do. Maybe we could keep reminding that person how good he or she is. Tell them that no matter what, you will always look up to them. Tell them that it is ok to be imperfect. Tell them that beyond their skill set or beyond what the world perceives them to be.. they are a person. At the end of the day that person matters. Nothing else does.
Hard times come to teach us. To burst our bubbles of myth. To make us face the harsh ground realities. To make us aware of our friends and foes. To make us aware of our capabilities. So it is up to us. What we choose to pick decides our fate. We can either choose to rant or complain about life being unfair to us. Or take it as a lesson, move on and start afresh. It is difficult but not impossible.
Coming to the second part. Why no. What is it that we can't do. We are bystanders or spectators to our loved ones. If they are going through something, it is they who know the intensity of their problems or feelings. We aren't supposed to judge them because we are not in their shoes. Hard times turn them into all together different people. It is like you are interacting with someone you don't know. No matter how much you want them to get up and move on. It's they who have to gather that inner strength. Without that strength you can drag them along but that won't be moving on.
You can lend a helping hand but it is they who need to decide to lean forward and hold that helping hand.
Life is a long beautiful journey. Why be stuck at a bad turn and miss out on the beautiful things that wait for us ahead. If you find someone stuck at one such turn, be patient and helpful rather than being judgemental. Be the ray of hope they are looking for.
But then can we actually do something in such cases. I guess it's both yes and a no.
Why yes. What is it that we can do. Maybe we could keep reminding that person how good he or she is. Tell them that no matter what, you will always look up to them. Tell them that it is ok to be imperfect. Tell them that beyond their skill set or beyond what the world perceives them to be.. they are a person. At the end of the day that person matters. Nothing else does.
Hard times come to teach us. To burst our bubbles of myth. To make us face the harsh ground realities. To make us aware of our friends and foes. To make us aware of our capabilities. So it is up to us. What we choose to pick decides our fate. We can either choose to rant or complain about life being unfair to us. Or take it as a lesson, move on and start afresh. It is difficult but not impossible.
Coming to the second part. Why no. What is it that we can't do. We are bystanders or spectators to our loved ones. If they are going through something, it is they who know the intensity of their problems or feelings. We aren't supposed to judge them because we are not in their shoes. Hard times turn them into all together different people. It is like you are interacting with someone you don't know. No matter how much you want them to get up and move on. It's they who have to gather that inner strength. Without that strength you can drag them along but that won't be moving on.
You can lend a helping hand but it is they who need to decide to lean forward and hold that helping hand.
Life is a long beautiful journey. Why be stuck at a bad turn and miss out on the beautiful things that wait for us ahead. If you find someone stuck at one such turn, be patient and helpful rather than being judgemental. Be the ray of hope they are looking for.
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